May 4th, 2008 mafia
Guest Author: Miranda
Follow these rules if you want to find love and relationship
Guys, looking for lovely ladies online for chat, dating, or more? Well then…
Know How To Play The Game!
First off, don’t move to fast. Online, ladies want to take it slow. If you are looking for something quick, go to a bar! Online is for developing relationships by getting to know people.
Take It Slow Don’t Rush Her!
Spend time making her comfortable with you. Do this by 1) expressing interest in what she is about and 2) sharing your own life experience as it relates to what she says, so she knows she is talking to someone real. A lot of guys try to come on super strong and cool online. Don’t do that!
Take your time, and see what happens!
Here are some other rules
Create a good username.
Less is more when writing your personal.
Post a complementing photo.
Wait 24 hours to respond.
Don’t answer on weekends or holidays
Write light and breezy Emails.
Never Email a second time if she neglected to respond to your Email.
Block yourself from Instant Messages.
Don’t waste your time on time-wasters.
Don’t force the relationship from Email to phone.
Put safety first.
Don’t ad-interrogate on dates.
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April 21st, 2008 mafia
My name is Jack.
Picture:
interest: golfing, football, swimming, weight lifting
looking for: long term relationship with another man
Biggest turn on: Fitness
Biggest turn off: Greed
Contact me: Jack @ NOSPAM.25×8mafia.com (remove what doesn’t belong)
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April 21st, 2008 mafia
You have got to know the rules of the game. Here are the rules to live by on the first meeting after you have talked online.
Our Panel of men (pics below) put together the following list to live by
1. Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Dates always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nike’s out was 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don’t just buy one outfit, sort out your entire wardrobe. If you can’t take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of him? Oh yes and buy a good well tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.
2. Get your hygiene and styling sorted out. Down to the barbers and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don’t have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Yes that means some expense. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always.
3. Sort out your job if you have one. Menwant a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (by the way I love skateboarding!). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Change job if need be but at least try and look like you you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself. If you already do, then you are on the right track but know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future because they will be asking questions about your prospects even if they pretend it isn’t important. It is.
4. Get your knowledge levels up. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Men do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world outside. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously, if you don’t have plans to travel, get some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.
5. Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess’s heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too. Taking your lady for a drink is fine, but give them the impression that you live in there will get you absolutely nowhere - fast.
10. Sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a top restaurant, know about fashion and jewelry and in particular flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.
11. Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about himself too. Listen to things he tells you about her and remember them. Men love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things he told you will impress him by the bucketful. Fact.
12. Give up smoking now.
13. Lean to dance even if you have two left flat feet. Menlove to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world’s worst dancer, I don’t care. But if you stay seated when he is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. If you can join Salsa and dancing classes all the better. You don’t need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today.
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April 17th, 2008 mafia
Jack shares his experience and tips when it comes to meeting men online.
Knowing What You Want
Whether you are about to embark on your first gay dating experience or you’ve been on the team for some time, it’s important to take stock of where you want your life to go in order to get the most out of your dating experiences.
Are you:
* Hoping to test out your inclinations? Some people are curious about gay relationships but unsure whether they really fit into the scenario. For them, gay dating can be a way to determine if they are actually gay, straight, or even bi-sexual. It’s only fair to let potential dates know where you stand, so they can make their own decisions about whether they want to be your introduction into the world of same gender romance.
* Just looking for fun? Like many heterosexuals, some gays are just looking for a good time without commitment. As long as you are up front about your motives, and you practice safe sex, your dates shouldn’t expect anything more from you. If a potential partner seems to be trying to create a deeper relationship than you are looking for, walk away before someone gets unnecessarily hurt.
* Looking for a committed relationship? Many gays would like to have the same things found in heterosexual relationships — marriage, or civil unions as the case may be, home, and eventually children. Yes, you can achieve these goals of a full and happy relationship. You just have to target your search to others who feel the same way you do and avoid wasting your time with people who are just looking for a casual good time.
Where to Meet Other Gays
There are plenty of resources for meeting other homosexuals for friendships and relationships; you just have to know where to look.
* Newspaper personal ads are likely to yield some results. While gay news publications are ideal, many mainstream papers and magazines feature a personals section where people can meet and date if they choose, and most will have sections devoted to gay and lesbian singles. These personal ads are necessarily short, but at least you have a starting point for possibly finding someone you’ll have something in common with beyond your sexual orientation.
* Dating Web Sites are a truly excellent source for meeting other homosexuals. You can use Online Dating to help target your ideal mate and then browse through your search results for gay singles who share some of your interests and hobbies. You’ll start the relationship with online chats, see if any sparks flying, and then you can decide if you want to explore the possibilities together.
* We all get by with a little help from our friends. Introductions from friends are yet another great way to meet your gay soul mate. You get to find out a lot about the other person from your friend’s perspective, so you may actually feel like you know each other a little by the time you finally meet.
The Sex Talk
No Dating Advice is complete without the safe sex talk. It may seem like AIDs is not the threat it was a decade ago, but now is no time to let down your guard. Always use protection. Fun is fun, but you don’t risk your life for it. If you date a lot, you need to be tested for HIV at least every six months, and no matter what the results, use protection anyway.
No one knows you better than you, so take a good look, figure out what you want out of life, and then go out there and get it.
Now that you know what you want, Know the rules:
The IKEA Rule.
When looking at guys always remember that it’s kind of like going to IKEA. Everything looks okay from the outside, but there is frequently a lot of pressboard and polyester involved inside. So the proper attitude is: nice sofa, nice sofa, nice sofa, but I don’t need it in my house.
The 4-6-8 Rule.
A guy’s perspective on Relative Attractiveness is as follows:
If he is a 4, he thinks he is a 6, and he is sure he deserves to be with nothing less than an 8.
The Jennifer Hart Rule.
The key to understanding gay guys is this:
Each and every one of them wants to be Jennifer Hart (yes, as in Hart to Hart). This is the fantasy where a notorious playboy who is beautiful, buff, and rich swoops in, realizes (at first sight, naturally) that you and you alone possess the inner beauty he has been seeking all his life, forsakes all others for you, and then takes care of your every spiritual, emotional, and physical need. He is never boring, never bored, and doesn’t mind if you eat everything in sight and acquire heinous love handles. He shares all his worldly goods 50-50 with you, is incredibly thoughtful and low-maintenance and allows you to do nothing for the rest of your life but maintain your hair. The only problem is, everyone wants to be Jennifer and no one wants to be Jonathan.
The “But My Wife Doesn’t Understand Me Like You Do” Rule.
Here’s the scenario:
You meet a really cute guy who’s traveling on business. He has a boyfriend, and they live together, but they: a) Have an “arrangement,” really!! b) Have both been terribly, terribly unhappy for a long time, and only stay together for the sake of the dog c) Are “in the process of breaking up” d) All of the above
Even Doris Day didn’t fall for crap like this in those 50’s flicks (actually, Doris kicked some philanderer’s rear). Half the time, the boyfriend is at home thinking hubby is nestled quietly at the Embassy Suites, dreaming peacefully of their idyllic life together.
The actual rule here? Duh! Stay away! Tell him to call you when the real estate has been divided up and he’s actually single. If the guy is going to cheat on his boyfriend, let it be with someone else. And for those of you who get emotionally involved with guys like this, Doris is coming over to kick YOUR rear.
The “What Goes Around Comes Around” Rule.
(The “Marla Maples Trump” rule.)
If he’s flagrantly cheating WITH you now, sooner or later he’ll be flagrantly cheating ON you. And you’ll deserve it.
The Princess Rule.
If you must be a princess, be Grace, not Margaret. If you are rude, imperious, have nothing interesting to say, and practice questionable hygiene, no one cares how big your tiara is, or whether you own Scotland.
The Nancy Reagan Rule.
If you aren’t interested, “Just Say No.” But do it nicely. Laughing derisively, cringing visibly, or heaping scorn on the other party is unnecessary, disrespectful, and mean. Being polite and kind doesn’t cost you anything, and someday you WILL be in the other guy’s shoes.
The Golden Rule.
Most of you went to kindergarten, so you should already know this one:
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So for those of you who do things like breaking up on the answering machine (don’t lie, you know who you are — don’t make me start calling out names), clean up your act!
Now, go play nice with others.
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April 15th, 2008 mafia
Are you curious about men for men sites online, and want to take a look? Then start with Chad’s site recommendations.
Adam4Adam
The highest ranked gay dating site according to Hitwise (March 2007), Adam4Adam has a particularly large user base in the US and UK. Costs are paid for by adult-oriented advertising, and escorts are not discouraged from signing up. Therefore, Adam4Adam is considered to be an ‘adult’ gay dating site - and an extremely popular one at that.
Ranking: 4 out of 5
SinglesNet
Online market research firms such as HitWise and Jupiter Research have consistently listed SinglesNet as one of the most popular dating sites today, although popular does not necessarily mean recommended. As several readers have pointed out to me and from my own personal experiences, SinglesNet is one of the those dating sites that seems to have a lot going for it on paper, but in reality has little to offer.
Ranking: 3 out of 5
OutPersonals
Another website in the FriendFinder network and catering to gay and bisexual men, OutPersonals offers the same features and services as all of the others in the network - as well as the same member base to draw upon. There are also no stated membership fees listed anywhere on the OutPersonals site until after the sign up process has been completed.
Ranking: 3 out of 5
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April 15th, 2008 mafia
Want to know the best men for men sites online? David shares his opinions based on experience.
Adam4Adam
The highest ranked gay dating site according to Hitwise (March 2007), Adam4Adam has a particularly large user base in the US and UK. Costs are paid for by adult-oriented advertising, and escorts are not discouraged from signing up. Therefore, Adam4Adam is considered to be an ‘adult’ gay dating site - and an extremely popular one at that.
Ranking: 4 out of 5
SinglesNet
Online market research firms such as HitWise and Jupiter Research have consistently listed SinglesNet as one of the most popular dating sites today, although popular does not necessarily mean recommended. As several readers have pointed out to me and from my own personal experiences, SinglesNet is one of the those dating sites that seems to have a lot going for it on paper, but in reality has little to offer.
Ranking: 3 out of 5
OutPersonals
Another website in the FriendFinder network and catering to gay and bisexual men, OutPersonals offers the same features and services as all of the others in the network - as well as the same member base to draw upon. There are also no stated membership fees listed anywhere on the OutPersonals site until after the sign up process has been completed.
Ranking: 3 out of 5
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